The coach's response? Oh, it's a participation trophy.
How about a participation certificate? A new soccer ball? Why a trophy? Because where I come from, a trophy means YOU WIN and, um, yeah? this team? this season? not so much.
Before anyone freaks out, I am NOT a super competitive mom who wants my kid to go! fight! win! But I do expect my child to try her hardest and do her best. And honestly, actually, SHE has. But she is one of 10 girls, and I can name seven right off the top of my head who do not want to play soccer, who put forth 20% effort in the games and who are sassy to the coaches and lazy at practice. THIS IS NOT A TEAM THAT NEEDS TO HAVE TROPHIES THIS YEAR.
My husband SAYS he agrees with me in theory, but doesn't feel strongly enough to say this to anyone but me and also thinks I am being a freak about it. I'll just throw out there that the coach is his BF and that my husband also thinks I am an overly aggressive WIN OR DIE zealot. Which I am not, mostly.
I am not being a freak.
But I am pissed that we already discussed this and I made my position CRYSTAL CLEAR and I said in no uncertain terms that I did not want to get a trophy for my daughter this year. And her coach? He ordered it anyway. So now if I don't pay for it to make my "statement" the only thing I'm doing is letting someone else pay for it. Either way, it's a done deal, her trophy has been ordered and is coming her way.
And I am not trying to punish my child. I am not going to forbid the coach to give her a trophy when the rest of the team is getting trophies. But what kind of message are we sending? What are we teaching our kids? Because the message that I am getting here is: it's okay to be lazy, don't worry about it, you're a winner anyway! Yay, we suck!
As a mom of older kids who have received this message their entire lives, I have to tell you, people, there is a price to pay for it in the long run, when these kids are young adults who have the expectation that no matter what they do, it'll all be okay.
Ugh, I am so annoyed right now.